no secret agenda here, i like to know you. thats all

kawinnn kawinnn kawinn i dont know i just like to talk about marriage these days. if you really think about it, are there any downside to marriage? apart from your spouse being a total bitch and the marriage ends in a wreck. kalau salah pilih pasangan tu lain cite lah. i mean kalau dgn the one. a lot of ppl ckp "nnt xde freedom la" or "always kene bebel" or "kalau ade awek lagi cun dtg after camne?" or "sebenarnye aku xde point sme relates to freedom je".

i got this one friend, who said the same thing when i asked him last year i think. he said he doesnt want to get married cus nak enjoy. to me, nak enjoy to mcm reasoning yg tak bole blah. i mean come on most of us have been spending our whole life having fun jeeee. not just on fridays. on any day that ends with the letter 'y'. mcm saye skrg da nk masuk 23 right, i dont know sampai bile la hidup sihat lagi kan tapi kite amek cam tibai2 sampai 50 je betul2 healthy before tulang start rapuh ape sme. da nk half of my life i spent enjoy ni wei. anyway, this friend of mine is getting married on this december and i will be his pengapit haha. alhamdulillah

im not gonna go into details ckp psl tanggungjawab husband ke wtv sebab even if i membebel bout that, i only know in theory je. marriage sme org kene experience hands-on kot. bace la 70 buku how-to's pn takkan pro confirm.

soooo im gonna talk about parents and in-laws instead. im not trying to brag about my dad or anything but i wish and i pray more in-laws are like him. okay not saying he's perfect everyone pn ade tak betul. but when someone punye pegangan agama tu so kuat, dier tak tgk ( sangat ) duniawi stuffs ni. ive heard mase my dad nk kawin dulu, ade this one guy perli him and said 'dier ni boleh ke nak bagi anak2 makan nasik nnt?'. hey my dad like most people, he started small. look at him now. so he had his share of hardships mase nak kawen. if we ( ever xD ) start to u know get serious with a relationship and start talking to him about it, his one major concern is "does she/he solat 5 times a day"? one of my ipars told me the story of dia first time datang jumpe my dad bincang pasal kawin and he was like supperrrrr-shocked at how this guy in his kain pelekat layan dia.

sure we need money, everybody knows that. once i asked my dad about money when it comes to raising a family and he told me ( not in his exact words ) "niat kita kene betul. kita betul2 nk build a family, atas ajaran Islam. we work for it. and we pray to Allah. inshaAllah, Allah will provide". you can say "orang hidup senang bole la ckp" but like i said, he went through tough times mase awal2 dulu. he even said the same thing pasal nak ade anak and family planning semua. all im saying is parents should seek menantu standards like my dad rather than kesah sgt dier ni fa ke mi ke dm ke fyp hensem tak, gaji 80k tak, rumah da ade ke blm etc etc.

all in all, dad, you're awesome. marriage is awesome. Prophet Muhamamad said that "marriage is half of your religion" so basically when you get married, you're already halfway to heaven i guess >.< no what it really means is it completes your religion... i think haha and not to mention when youre married, all your amalan will be multiplied by idk how much but im sure in cases like this, numbers are just estimation. The Messenger reminded a fellow sahaba' when that guy asked him how can he get married when he didnt have money to provide his wife. Muhamamad (pbuh) said "get married get married get married" ( sorry cant seem to find the hadith at the moment )

so what are we waiting for? 2012 ah? lolz